@Keaton
He probably didn’t. Many people think touch is a love language just to justify needing sex, but physical touch as a love language is not just about that.
Flann said:
@Keaton
He probably didn’t. Many people think touch is a love language just to justify needing sex, but physical touch as a love language is not just about that.
Exactly. My love language is touch, which means I need hugs, holding hands, and simple touch to feel loved. Sex is entirely different; touch can happen without a sexual context.
@Dane
Exactly! It’s about being thought of when we’re apart, and that thoughtfulness is what counts.
Someone once gave me something they found on the street that reminded them of me. I still treasure it. It’s not about the money involved.
Devin said:
Someone once gave me something they found on the street that reminded them of me. I still treasure it. It’s not about the money involved.
Yes! My husband has a box of things that most people would consider junk, like old receipts. But to him, each item holds a lot of significance. It’s really sweet, even if it means he sometimes doesn’t want to throw things away.
I’ve read about love languages, but this post really hit home for me.
I love giving gifts and often do it just to be nice, without a specific occasion.
I can be generous, but that sometimes makes my friends uncomfortable or leads some to take advantage of me. I never realized that gift-giving was my love language.
@Blair
We’re so alike. I give gifts because I want others to feel warm and happy, just like I would.
@Blair
Same! My gift-giving started when I’d find pretty seashells at the beach and would give them to my parents. I can go overboard with gifts sometimes, especially at birthdays and holidays, but that’s just who I am.
@Blair
I love sending people flowers! I enjoy receiving them too, but I really love giving them as special surprises.
I totally understand. It’s the little things that matter.
I think gift-giving is very important. The cost isn’t important, but it does depend on the gift. My boyfriend often gets his mom gift cards, which I find a little disappointing. Last Christmas, I pitched in to buy her some cozy slippers made from alpaca wool, and he said she loved them. They weren’t too pricey but definitely felt more special than a gift card.
For me, gift-giving is a tangible way to show thoughtfulness and make someone happy. It’s also more challenging to think of a perfect gift than to think of a kind action, which makes it feel extra nice when you nail it.
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I’m in the same situation. Does anyone have advice on how to ask for gifts like this?
Reid said:
I’m in the same situation. Does anyone have advice on how to ask for gifts like this?
Me too. I recently talked with my husband about this, and it was really tough for me. I struggle to ask for help or gifts, so I ended up stressed and crying, with him feeling bad. A small treat from the store really makes me happy. I feel silly, but those little gestures mean a lot.
@Micah
Have you read The 5 Love Languages book? It explains things well.
Reid said:
I’m in the same situation. Does anyone have advice on how to ask for gifts like this?
I had to have several talks with my husband about this. It’s about different values and expectations. I feel appreciated when he thinks of what I would like and gives me something that makes me happy, while he prefers verbal affirmations and thanks. We have had deep conversations about our different views on gifts and what they represent.
@Marlon
I had a similar conversation last night. It was awkward for me to bring up, but he was understanding and listened. Thank you for the advice!
Reid said:
I’m in the same situation. Does anyone have advice on how to ask for gifts like this?
It’s hard because you’re asking for thoughtfulness. You either have it or you don’t.
@Fifer
I disagree. After discussing the importance of non-sexual touch with my husband, I’ve learned to include that in my daily behavior despite it not being my primary love language. It’s about appreciating how happy you can make your partner.